Dating soldier ptsd
Dating soldier ptsd
Small provocation, small response (but this could get you killed on the battlefield).When the training becomes second nature, a warrior might take any adrenaline rush as a cue to “apply maximum firepower.” This can become particularly unfortunate if someone starts to cry.
One of my Marines recommended by Dave Grossman, and I would pass that recommendation on. He’s had to cultivate explosive anger in order to survive in combat. He may have been only nineteen when he first had to make a life and death decision for someone else.
He may make an exception for his children (because they cannot divorce him), but that will be instinctual and he will probably not be able to explain his actions. This was true of our beloved “Greatest Generation” warriors of WWII, and it remains true to this day.
Technically, your warrior may well be a killer, as are his friends.
He may believe that he’s the only one who feels this way; eventually he may realize that at least other combat vets understand.
On some level, he doesn’t want you to understand, because that would mean you had shared his most horrible experience, and he wants someone to remain innocent. He doesn’t understand that you have a mama bear inside of you, that probably any of us could kill in defense of someone if we needed to.
He may not see that you stay with him as a conscious choice. “The training kicks in” means something very different to him.
It is direct battle doctrine that when ambushed by a superior force, the correct response is “Apply maximum firepower and break contact.” A warrior has to be able to respond to threat with minimal time pondering choices.
Imagine your reaction if someone pointed a weapon at your child.
Would it change your reaction if a child pointed a weapon at your child? When you don’t understand, he needs you to give him the benefit of the doubt.
It is even harder for him if you are smart and do not need him to rescue you, since rescuing is something he does really well.
If you are very competent at many things, he may at times question if you need him at all.
Tears are unbearable to him; they create explosive emotions in him that can be difficult for him to control.