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According to the National Autistic Society (NAS), autism is an incurable developmental disability, in which one’s ability to communicate and relate to the outside world is impaired, meaning empathy (the drive to identify with others’ emotions), socialising and picking up on cues, such as subtlety or irony, are virtually impossible.The term Asperger’s was coined some 60 years ago, derived from the Austrian paediatrician Hans Asperger, who believed that mildly autistic people could lead normal lives, especially if given the proper encouragement.
Many cases, according to the NAS, never receive a formal diagnosis – largely because it can be hard to know where maleness ends and AS begins.condition too, as the recent diagnosis of singer Susan Boyle demonstrates.About 90 per cent of Asperger’s diagnoses are in men, but this is largely because women ‘use specific coping and adjustment strategies to camouflage their confusion in social situations’, according to clinical psychologist and Asperger’s expert Tony Attwood, who believes that the actual male-to-female Asperger’s ratio is more like 4:1.So should the partners of AS sufferers wring their hands in despair? This realisation that so many men have some form of AS – something they can’t control and did not choose – goes a long way towards explaining the stereotypical Mars-Venus dichotomy between sensitive, feelings-oriented women and tuned-out, facts-oriented men, and should come as a great relief. ‘I felt liberated,’ says my friend Tess of the moment she realised, after reading up about Asperger’s and how many men it affects, that her husband Peter wasn’t just being rude when he failed to realise he was meant to look up from the television when friends they’d invited round turned up for lunch. I accept that now, so I subtly let him know what I want him to do, whether it be helping around the house or trying to tune in to a conversation, and most of the time he then does it.’The writer Toby Young, though he remains officially undiagnosed, is convinced that he has AS, as is his wife Caroline, who likens him to Homer Simpson and has come to see his ‘total disregard for social etiquette’ – he recently failed to see what was wrong with trying to re-sell a cheese sandwich his child didn’t want to eat to other customers in a café – as ‘more innocence than arrogance’.Good news, ladies – we don’t need to feel angry when he doesn’t ‘sense’ that we’ve had a bad day and shoo us off to have a hot bath while he gets the supper ready. And while my ex-husband definitely does not have AS, there were times in our marriage when I did puzzle over his detached behaviour: such as when he went off on a golf weekend with a friend who was on the brink of becoming engaged to a long-term girlfriend.Dating violence is a pattern of abusive behaviors used to exert power and control over a dating partner.
Calling dating violence a pattern doesn’t mean the first instance of abuse is not dating violence.
Does he pick the exact moment when you’re trying to unpack the food shopping, feed the children and let the dog out, all at once, to ask why his navy argyle socks are not in the drawer?
If his behaviour seems inexplicable – and, frankly, infuriating – then you’ll be relieved to hear that there may be a good explanation for it: Asperger’s syndrome (AS).
Anyone can be abusive and anyone can be the victim of abuse.
It happens regardless of gender, age, sexual orientation, race or economic background.
This can include: People abuse their partners because they believe they have the right to control the person they’re dating. Maybe they believe that they should be in charge in the relationship. Many people experience or witness abuse growing up and decide not to use those negative and hurtful ways of behaving.