Dating advice for the over 40 crowd

22-Feb-2017 17:44 by 7 Comments

Dating advice for the over 40 crowd

Over the course of several months of online dating, I discovered that the pool of available older women is vast and diverse (as is true of men, although perhaps to a lesser extent) and that with a little effort, a reasonably intelligent, halfway-presentable person can usually generate some interest on dating websites. We’ve survived death and divorce, raised families, managed careers and built support networks of family and friends. But I wasn’t the same single guy I was the last time I lived here. And I wanted to meet people, so I turned to internet dating as a way to meet eligible women.

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Most women over 50 have been in relationships with men who don't care much about what they have to say.

For 10, 20, 30 years, the men in their lives have been blathering on about themselves and not listening. Maybe it's the journalist in me who always preferred interviewing to being interviewed. I ask questions that make it clear I have heard what they say and want to hear more. I've done lots of cool things, worked for Tom Hanks and for governors and CEOs and climbed mountains and such.

And even though procreation is off the table, I picked up clear signals from the women I met online that the meter is running, so it’s best to get on with things.

Most wanted to push past the introductory emails and calls to schedule a get-together ASAP.

More and more of us find ourselves back in a dating world that has changed tremendously over the past decade.

Even though it seems to be all about Facebook, Tweeting and texting — some things — like self respect and values — are still the same.

You will be more interesting to a match if you have a diverse range of hobbies — so get out there and try something new.

Look at that first date as just an opportunity to get to connect with someone new. Don’t look at a potential partner as the “end all be all.” 11.

For instance, does “loves sports” mean you’re up for cross-country skiing and white-water rafting, or is it a declaration that every weekend is devoted to channel-surfing the pro and college games? Potential dates skimming your profile are more likely to respond to specifics.

Believe me, it’s a much better strategy than scheduling a coffee date and finding you have little or nothing in common.

In 2006 I walked down the aisle for the first (and last) time at age 47.